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In Memoriam 

Dedicated to 

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and to 

Others of Blessed Memory 

Who 

"Have Seen His Star in the East" 



ALT A M. SULLIVAN 

Grand Matron of Iowa, 1913 

OCT 29 1919 



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"1 sit and think when the sunset's gold 
Is flushing river and hill and shore, 
I shall one day stand by the water cold, 
And list to the sound of the boatman's oar; 
I shall watch for a gleam of the snowy sail r 
I shall hear the boat as it gains the strand; 
I shall pass from isight with the boatman pale. 
To the better shore of the spirit land. 
I shall know the loved who have gone before; 
And joyfully sweet will the meeting be, 
When over the river, the peaceful river, 
The Angel of death shall carry me." 




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GRAND PATRON: Our Memorial Service is 
held in honor of our Loved and Lost who have 
walked in the light of the Star. This light may shed 
effulgence upon .others who have not caught the 
vision and we welcome them to our service. 

Each year we come athirst for the sweet com- 
munion which memory brings in the thought of our 
Loved Ones. Sorrow has a refining influence and 
tender reflections of glory when accompanied by the 
fellowship of congenial spirits. While our lives 
seem strong and brave our hearts are beating 
fiuneral marches to eternity and many dear ones 
have 'been gathered in Paradise since we last met. 
We enshrine their virtues on tablets of our hearts. 
Their generous impulses and ministrations of kind- 
ness, praise and love are left to us as rich legacies. 
For this inheritance we shall carry higher ideals of 
life and joy instead of sorrow. 

SISTER GRAND MARSHAL: The Grand Matron 
and her official staff desire to pay homage to the 
memory of our deceased members. 

GRAND MARSHAL, (Goes to the door and says) : 
The Grand Patron announces that the Grand Chapter 
of Sorrow is prepared for your entrance. 

GRAND OFFICERS enter as for opening Chapter 
and take stations while "When the Mists Have Rolled 
Away" is being sung. 



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The Matron is escorted to the East without direc- 
tion, accompanied by low music, while the Associate 
Patron (or Patron if in local) recites: "Let not your 
heart be troubled; ye believe in God, believe also in 
me. In my Father's house are many mansions; if it 
were not so I would have told you. I go to prepare a 
place for you, and if I go and prepare a place for 
you, I will come again and receive you unto myself; 
that where I am, there ye may be also." 

GRAND MATRON (ascends dias, receives gavel 
and seats audience but officers remain standing) : 
In the sacred sanctuary of our loved ones our 
thoughts are receptive of beautiful, tender memories. 
In this twilight hour when the mist enshrouds the 
forms we loved let our vision sense the beauties of 
spiritual perception and acknowledge the wisdom of 
a wise Providence. A better understanding of God 
and His creation will aid us in solving many prob- 
lems. His laws held in obeisance bring joy, anima- 
tion, truth and love, cons e oration and righteousness. 

Moses interpreted God's laws as the Ten Com- 
mandments. Jesus' demonstration of the decalogue 
in His human ministration was acknowledgment of 
supreme love and its subsequent corollaries. We aire 
made in His image and likeness and by practice of 
His precepts we must reflect His qualities, 

"Revealing in the eternal plan 
God's measure of a perfect man." 



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In these melancholy hours minor chords hold the 
dominant tones, but they are reselient in qualities 
with happy and more joyous cadences of other days. 
The charm oif music will soothe the broken heart and 
bring us in harmony with that unseen chorus sing- 
ing peans of praise to the King of Kings. 

Choir sings "Face to Pace." 

Prayer: Eternal Presence, Love Divine abide 
with us, Thou who dost understand and know- 
est the secret mysteries of ouir hearts. Make 
us tender, ;pure and lovely in Thy sight. 
Endue us with Thy igrace that we may see 
through the darkness and know Thou art our com- 
fort in life, our guide in death, our refuge when en- 
compassed by storms and that the clouds only 
obscure the golden sunset with its wistful symphony 
of color. Let peace abound in our hearts. Be esipe- 
cially near those who are in sorrow and may Thy 
infinite mercy reveal Thy light to all who need Thee. 
May our loss and the pathos it brings make us better 
Eastern Stars in our walks through the labyrinth of 
life; make us wiser, truer, gentler, broader. 

We ask Thy blessing and acknowledge Thee, 
"Our Father, which art in heaven," etc. (Officers re- 
peat or chant Lord's Prayer in unison with Chap- 
lain). 

GRAND MATRON: Sister Grand Secretary, 
While bells are tolling a requiem for our departed 



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loved ones we will have an unresponsive roll call. 
(Low 'bell tolls while) 

GRAND SECRETARY calls roll in abbreviated 
form giving any Past Grand Officers' names (or if 
in local Chapter names of all) who have ipassed on 
during the year. 

GRAND MATRON: My Sister Associate what as- 
surance have you that we shall join our loved ones? 

ASSOCIATE GRAND MATRON: Worthy Grand 
Matron, while a veil of mystery hangs between us 
and the portal we call death our faith and hope in 
the newer life are like a placid pool which pictures 
the objects on its banks, or reflects from its clear 
depths the burnished lustre of the stars. 

The flowered upholstered grave into which we 
lowered our loved one, spiritually assumes a dif- 
ferent aspect. Where there is death life shall come, 
decay will 'be followed by a new birth ,the mortal 
will be crowned with immortelles and joy will follow 
sorrow. The germ is left in the seed only to come 
again in regal splendor. Jesus met death and con- 
quered it, and this is considered his crowning work, 
thereby establishing the immortality of the soul. 

GRAND MATRON: My Sisters in the North and 
in the South, have you made the impression's from 
your stations favorable and lasting? 



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ASSOCIATE GRAND CONDUCTRESS: In wel- 
coming and receiving candidates the preparation 
that follows is for progress toward Goodliness and 
Perfection. To know and to understand divine prin- 
ciple n tangible "form is . the fundamental object of 
the Eastern Star. 

GRAND CONDUCTRESS: "Where there is no 
vision the people perish," The dawn which came 
with the lifting of the veil at the altar visions the 
sublimity of an all-wise Philosoipher. The occult or 
hidden meaning of . our cabalistic motto has been 
revealed in a truer light than when received in our 
Chapter. Our sisters and brothers now see and un- 
derstand spiritual things. 

GRAND" MATRON: Worthy Grand Patron, may 
we again hear that sweet story echoed through the 
ages? 

GRAND PATRON: (Star Points form a star by 
extending arms, fingers touching) We have been 
guided through the coil of centuries by that light 
which gave promise of eternal day.. The Star was 
first observed by mankmd^&uririg the cruelties com- 
mitted by King Herod in Palestine. It then guided 
the Wise Men to the place where lay the lowly Jesus. 
The Star is a symbol of light which heralded the 
nativity of Christ. It is divinely revealing and rich 
in comfort; a healing balm in time of sorrow. It 
reflects our keenest woe, our highest joy and the 



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most secret longing of the heart. (iStar Points now 
resume stations and Patron continues) : 

My Sisters what effulgence did the rays of the 
Star shed upon the heroines of our Order? 

ADAH: Spiritual loveliness stood out pre-emi- 
nently in the tender young life of Jephthah's only 
daughter. A page in sacred history recounts her 
moral and virtuous 'principles; her strength and 
sweetness of character. Her affection for her 
warrior father filled her with anxiety. Devout sup- 
plication was a part of her daily life and prepared 
her womanly heart for the fateful sacrifice. 

RUTH: Duty and love were inseparable in the 
life of Ruth. Her supreme devotion to Naomi lias 
left a train of consequences reflecting honor and 
humility. Her obedience to the call of duty en- 
riched her heart as fully as the golden sheaves 
of barley adorned the fields of Boaz. It was through 
religious sentiment that Ruth fulfilled the holy obli- 
gation of fiiliart piety. 

ESTHER: The Persians being an artistic race 
sought the beautiful in life. Hadassah, later named 
Esther, was their most beautiful woman and for this 
reason was chosen the consort of King Ahasuerus. 
Reared in affluence and refinement her educational 
growth was accompanied by expansion of womanly 
grace? and charm. Part of her daily life was conse- 
crated to the Jewish religion. When crime and 



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devastation were pronounced ujpon her people she 
sought the cloister for supplication and implored her 
race to fast and pray. By appearing at the foot of 
the throne in charming royal siplendor she inveigled 
the king to grant her request. This lovely vision 
possessed that innate beauty peculiar to the chris- 
tian character. 

MARTHA: In the little home in Bethany where 
Martha was mistress of the family, each department 
of her labor abounded with hope and a faith that a 
kind Providence was ever protecting her. Eivery 
minor operation of her life was a belief tjiat religion 
could be applied to each endeavor. She was self 
sacrificing and performed the physical labor about 
the house and superintended the growing of flowers 
for the pleasure of Jesus when he dropped in for 
rest and spiritual repose. 

ELECTA: The earthly conditions of the Pagans 
were not appropriate to Electa and when spiritual 
light was restored to her she was happy to cast 
aside her idolatrous worship. She was an elect-lady 
and was sustained by guardian angels. She had a 
revelation of the coming of the Messiah, a prophesy 
foretold by Isaiah. 

Electa was contemporary with Jesus, though she 
n^ver met Him. She kept an authentic record of 
his sayings and ministrations which was valuable in 
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mother in her newly found religion, we cling to that 
hope which is life eternal. More than bonds of fel- 
lowship are reflected from the Points of the Star, 
there are bonds of love, that holy mandate given by 
our Master. 

GRAND MATRON: Sister Grand Marshal. Duty 

is imparative and we trust your supervision over all 
processions was directed with zealous care. 

GRAND MARSHAL: Countless pagents have 
passed in review; some in gala attire; some in war- 
like attitude stepping in rythmic measure to call of 
fife or tatoo of drum. 

Today we realize a vast army has laid down 
shield and sword. The finite has been conquered by 
the infinite; the mortal has surrendered to the im- 
mortal and a triumphant band of fraternal workers 
has passed in review before the Highest Tribunal. 

GRAND MATRON: Sister Grand Secretary. 
Have you preserved authentic evidence of these 
lives? 

GRAND SECRETARY: In closing the record of 
these friends, who have preceded us a short time, we 
find written on pages of spotless white deeds of 
benevolence. Their motto has been, There is sor- 
row attendant upon every wrong inflicted; there is 
joy benign in every good accomplished. They have 
left volumes in remembrance distinctly enriched by 



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the character of their service. Memories fragrant 
in friendships that have graciously influenced our 
days and plans. The swift days whisper time is 
fleeting and that the volume which contains our 
daily record will soon be a closed book. 

GRAND MATRON: Sister Grand Treasurer. Is 
your message one of promise? 

GRAND TREASURER: In the Treasure House 
of Memory as we pause to take cognizance of their 
virtues our minds arefllled with retrospection. Sad- 
ness comes to the heart with the vision of the vacant 
chair and the absence of the form we knew. We 
listen for the voice that is still; we seek the vibrant 
touch of the unseen hand; we yearn for the compan- 
ionship that afforded reciprocal affection and they 
have vanished. The imprint of rlife is left — the 
shadow or the silent influence. We still have the 
essence of the distilled flower that will linger long 
after the golden calyx which produced it has faded 
into nothingness. "The body is but the outer gar- 
ment which the soul sheds when it returns to its 
maker." 

GRAND MATRON: Sister Grand Warder, what 
is your message in regard to their exit? 

GRAND WARDER: Grand Matron the door has 
been well guarded, but they have passed beyond our 
vision. They left as quietly as fall the shades of 



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night and as gently as the sun lifts the curtains of 
the morning. 

CHAPLAIN'S ADDRESS: 

COMMITTEE ON NECROLOGY: 

GRAND MATRON: Associate Grand Patron. 
What is your impresision of our passing? 

ASSOCIATE GRAND PATRON: In accordance 
with divine law God has made provision for those 
He has taken (choir sings "At the Cross," etc., while 
officers form Cross as per diagram. Associate Patron 
remains standing and continues) : 

The Cross was reverenced as a symbol before 
the advent of Christ and has been honored by ages 
and nations since His crucifiction. It stands for a 
conquering religion. In some countries it is equiv- 
alent to the word immortality. Pre-historic peoiples 
used it on their urns as a sign of eternal life. John's 
narrative of Jesus' anguish on the cross, that drama 
of Calvary, of his burial and resurrection stands out 
pre-eminently that life is eternal. 

GRAND MATROiN CSteps down and lifting a 
basket of roses says) : In nothing does God better 
portray is love for us than in the flowery kingdom. 
Flowers are His perfect ideas and silent messengers 
of compassion. They whinper as qietly of the bene- 
dictions of heaven as the dewdrops glistening on the 
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distilled nectar for our (pleasure and comfort. The 
rose has been acknowledged the queen of flowers 
because of its beauty and fragrance. It is also the 
symbol of Christ and the emblem of life and love. 

My sisters you represent that most sacred symbol 
which united with the rose has taught the secret of 
immortality to the world. 



"There is no death! 

We push away the veil, and stand 

(Entranced before the infinite and grand. 

There is no loss! 

We hasten on to find 

The glorious treasures of eternity. 

There is no lack! 

When past are shadows of unrest, 

We glimpse the real, the object of our quest. 

There is no doubt! 

The childlike trust that has no fear 

Serenely waits and knows that God is here." 



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The Altar, draped in lavender or white, is placed 
in the East, bearing an open Bible. A Cross has 
been prepared upon which to hang a basket of roses. 
To form the Cross, Officers take positions same as 
for retiring in local chapter. Twelve other ladies, as 
indicated in margin, follow officers to form upright 
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The Rose Still Grows Beyond the Wall 

"Near shady wall, a rose once grew, 
Budded and blossomed in God's free light, 
Watered and fed by morning dew, 
Shedding its fragrance day and night. 

As it grew and blossomed fair and tall, 

Slowly rising to loftier height, 

It came to a crevice in the wall, 

Through which there shown a beam of light. 

Upward it crept with added strength, 

With never a thought of fear or pride 

It followed the light through the crevice's length 

And unfolded itself on the other side. 

The light, the dew, the broadening river 
Were found the same as they were before; 
And it lost itself in beauties ever 
Breathing its fragrance more and more. 

Shall claims of death cause us to grieve, 
And make our courage fail? 
Nay! Let us faith and hope receive; 
The rose still grows beyond the wall. 

Scattering fragrance far and wide, 
Juot as it did in days of yore, 
Just as it did on the other side, 
Just as it will for ever more." 



